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On the peculiar privilege of being alive within a story we will never finish reading.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019ve always been rather fond of the expression, \u201cAnd that\u2019s all she wrote.\u201d<\/em> Five unassuming words. A little cheeky, almost dismissive. The sort of thing someone says when the conversation has run its course, the outcome is inevitable, or there\u2019s nothing left to add.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But lately, I\u2019ve been considering those words from an entirely different perspective. What if the real wonder isn\u2019t knowing when to stop writing but recognizing the peculiar privilege of being given a story to write in the first place?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Life, after all, is a rather curious arrangement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We arrive without explanation, inherit a body we didn\u2019t design, find ourselves surrounded by people and circumstances we didn\u2019t choose, and begin collecting experiences as if we understand what we\u2019re doing here. We don\u2019t, of course – well, not entirely. And yet, we proceed on daily.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We make coffee, misplace our keys, work for money to spend or save, fall in love, and lose people.  We buy groceries, board airplanes, argue about inconsequential things, then stand in kitchens wondering why we walked in. We have endless conversations that change the trajectory of our lives and countless others that evaporate before dinner. In fact, I recently asked my youngest son how many interactions he has with people in a typical day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

His answer?  More than 100.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Somewhere between the spectacular and the spectacularly ordinary, a life takes shape.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019ve spent a good portion of my life collecting experiences, sometimes in faraway places, sometimes in the most unremarkable corners of an otherwise ordinary Tuesday. And increasingly, I\u2019ve come to suspect that the distinction between the extraordinary and the mundane is largely a matter of attention.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A conversation with a stranger can remain with us longer than a celebrated monument. A familiar voice across the dinner table can become more precious than any passport stamp. An afternoon we barely registered can, years later, reveal itself as the last time something happened exactly as we knew it. Why do we rarely recognize these moments while we\u2019re living them?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Perhaps because life doesn\u2019t arrive with footnotes explaining what matters, and it doesn\u2019t provide a table of contents. We simply keep turning pages, unaware of which moments will become the chapters we wish we could revisit.  And here is where the whole business of being alive becomes even more wonderfully, maddeningly absurd.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Despite all my efforts to make sense of this curious business of being human, I find myself thinking more and more about life\u2019s eventual end. Call it a reckoning of sorts, which leaves me queasy. I sometimes wonder: Am I the only one who thinks this way?           <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all know our time is finite.  We can imagine what comes next, but we can’t know how the world will unfold after we\u2019ve left it.  Our participation ends, while the story continues without us.  What\u2019s maddening is that we spend our lives gathering stories, forming relationships, raising children, loving imperfectly, learning belatedly, and occasionally believing we\u2019ve figured something out.  Then, at an unknowable moment, our participation ends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the story doesn\u2019t end.  Only our part in it does.  Whether we\u2019ve passed on, crossed over, or simply slipped into the abyss, the world continues.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People we love will keep having birthdays. Children will become older versions of themselves. Someone will discover a book we once adored. Flowers will bloom in gardens we no longer tend. Conversations will take place at tables where we once sat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The world will keep writing chapters we no longer appear in, and we won\u2019t get to read them.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I find the above thought unsettling yet strangely magnificent. Perhaps the privilege of being alive was never the promise of understanding the entire story; it was simply the opportunity to participate. To notice. To wonder. To love. To make mistakes. To revise our understanding. To be astonished that, against all conceivable odds, we were here at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We tend to think of a meaningful life as something that must eventually make sense when viewed in its entirety, ideally as a coherent narrative with a satisfying conclusion.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But what if meaning isn\u2019t waiting at the end?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What if it\u2019s scattered throughout our lives, hidden in ordinary days and experiences we barely recognized as significant? Maybe the story of a life isn\u2019t something we finish and then understand. Maybe we understand it as we go, fully aware that much of it will remain unresolved. And perhaps that\u2019s enough.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I don\u2019t know how many chapters remain in mine. I don\u2019t know which conversations will matter most, which everyday afternoons I\u2019ll wish I could revisit, or what will become of all these thoughts and memories when the machinery of my consciousness finally goes quiet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I have many unanswered questions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But I also have mornings yet to wake into, people yet to meet, places yet to wander, and the delightful possibility that something utterly mundane tomorrow might become one of the most meaningful moments of my life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And I find myself increasingly reluctant to overlook any of it. I may never know how the larger story unfolds.  I am not entirely comfortable with that, and to be honest, I may never be.   But for now, I am still here, curious, and still writing to make sense of it all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And that\u2019s not all she wrote. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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