{"id":1449,"date":"2026-03-23T16:32:42","date_gmt":"2026-03-23T16:32:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/prolificpreambles.com\/?p=1449"},"modified":"2026-03-23T16:44:52","modified_gmt":"2026-03-23T16:44:52","slug":"not-nice-kind","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/prolificpreambles.com\/?p=1449","title":{"rendered":"Not Nice. Kind."},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Lately, I\u2019ve been reflecting on the difference between being nice<\/em> and being kind.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

For most of my life, I believed they were the same. Nice meant keeping peace, not rocking the boat, and choosing words carefully so no one felt uncomfortable. It looked good on the surface, but underneath, things didn\u2019t improve. They simply got quieter, and I became more annoyed…and maintaining peace to be nice isn\u2019t the same as being healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It took me a long time and some uncomfortable clarity to see it differently. Avoiding the truth doesn\u2019t stop damage; it just delays it, sometimes shifting it onto people who didn\u2019t cause it in the first place.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I started noticing something else as well. How quickly conversations shift away from what\u2019s actually being said and focus only on how<\/em> it was said. As if tone matters more than truth and delivery erases intent, in those moments, I would question myself\u2026reword, soften, rethink.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Now I see it more clearly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sometimes people focus on delivery because it seems easier than facing reality. This isn’t always intentional or malicious; I guess it’s just human. Because truth, even when it\u2019s kind, can ask something of you\u2014reflection, change, ownership\u2014and not everyone is ready for that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019m learning that kindness isn\u2019t about keeping everything comfortable. It\u2019s about being grounded enough in your values to speak what truly matters, even if it\u2019s a little imperfect and prickly. Because it often is\u2026 and the people who care about you, the ones capable of hearing you, shouldn’t need perfect words, only to sense the heart behind them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The rest\u2026 well, I\u2019m making peace with being misunderstood, not in a dramatic way, in a quieter, steadier way. The kind that doesn\u2019t rush to explain or over-correct.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because truth\u2014real truth\u2014isn\u2019t meant to tear things down, only strengthen what\u2019s fragile before it breaks.\u00a0<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Lately, I\u2019ve been reflecting on the difference between being nice and being kind. For most of my life, I believed they were the same. Nice meant keeping peace, not rocking the boat, and choosing words carefully so no one felt uncomfortable. It looked good on the surface, but underneath, things didn\u2019t improve. They simply got […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1450,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[29,27,5],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1449","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-personal-contemplation","category-reflection","category-self"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/prolificpreambles.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1449","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/prolificpreambles.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/prolificpreambles.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/prolificpreambles.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/prolificpreambles.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1449"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/prolificpreambles.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1449\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1453,"href":"https:\/\/prolificpreambles.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1449\/revisions\/1453"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/prolificpreambles.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/1450"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/prolificpreambles.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1449"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/prolificpreambles.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1449"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/prolificpreambles.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1449"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}